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12 Biases That Make You Overestimate Your Ex’s Attractiveness
We’re all terrible at evaluating our ex’s overall attractiveness objectively. Whether we’ve just started interacting with them or we’ve already been dating for weeks or months, we’re horrible at this — always have been.
We usually hoist our ex up on a pedestal, praise their personality as if it was the second coming of Jesus, deem our emotional connection incomparable, and crown them as hotter, smarter, funnier, and more special than they really are.
We do this because of perceptual and cognitive biases. Think of them as psychological distortions that bend reality and misshape our perception of our ex and our relationship with them. Some people are more afflicted by them; other people less. Yet, no one is immune to them.
But through expanding our conscious awareness, we can help ourselves notice these biases faster and prevent them from twirling us into turmoil where we have a higher chance of sabotaging our re-attraction efforts.
So here are 12 biases that make you overestimate your ex’s overall attractiveness that you should watch out for.
1. Experience Bias. The fewer relationships and dating/sexual experiences you had, the more you’ll overestimate your ex’s attractiveness. So if you only had one serious relationship prior to your ex…
