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12 Simple Habits That Accelerate Re-Attraction

A list of what I deem are the most effective re-attraction habits — habits that help you get back with your ex sooner.

Max Jancar
4 min readJul 21, 2023

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Re-attraction boils down to building umpteen habits that improve your life and personal growth. The theory goes that the better your life and the more you mature, the more attractive you’ll be, and the higher the likelihood you’ll get back with your ex as a result.

But not every habit yields the same returns. Some are more effective than others, that is, they re-attract your ex faster. Below are what I deem the most effective ones. Their true beauty? They blaze new trails beyond simple re-attraction. They spill into and improve virtually every part of your life.

Habit #1: Exercise vulnerability. Learn to express what you feel unconditionally. That is, without expecting a specific response in return. Ex looks hot? Tell them they look hot. Want to invite them on a date? Invite them on a date. Want to fuck their brains out? Tell them you want to fuck their brains out. If they slap you with a rejection at some point, accept it and pull away. Or walk away completely.

Habit #2: Get better at managing your emotions. Feel them but refrain from always responding to them — especially when you feel like you’ll respond in a self-sabotaging way. For example, when pissed off, don’t respond by giving your ex a call and telling them they’re a piece of shit. Instead, go to the gym, meditate, or seek out a therapist. Find positive outlets for your pent-up negative feelings.

Habit #3: Practice standing up for yourself. Assert your boundaries and hold them erect. Ex only calls when they need something from you? Stop answering their calls. Ex keeps disrespecting you on your date? Politely tell them to cut it out or else you’re going home — and then actually go home if they’re still being an ass. Your ex rejected you after you asked them out? Have some self-respect and move on to someone new.

Habit #4: Elevate your social skills. Learn to connect with your ex in a way that…

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Max Jancar

Author, blogger, and entrepreneur. I write self-help advice for people going through heartbreak. Get my free cheat sheets: https://maxjancar.com/cheat-sheets