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8 Ways To Overcome Anger After A Breakup
It’s normal to feel angry after a breakup. It’s a key stage to recovery. Here are 8 ways to deal with your anger after a breakup effectively.
Feeling anger after a breakup is unavoidable. Anger is literally one of the stages of recovery you need to go through. You can’t suppress it. You can’t avoid it. You can’t make it go away.
If you’ve been reading other articles on overcoming anger after a breakup, you’ve probably come across a bunch of techniques and tools and encouragement for getting rid of it altogether.
Surprisingly, that’s actually a very unproductive — often even self-destructive — thing to do.
You see, the harder you try to get the anger out of your system, the more that anger will expand and grow. And when it reaches a certain threshold, it’s going to burst out of you in the form of a temper tantrum, increasing your chances of hurting someone emotionally or physically.
And if that happens, you’ll probably criticize yourself, and as a result, only get angrier — you’ll start feeling angry for being angry. At that point, you’ll repeat the entire process and keep repeating it — at least that’s what happens to most people dealing with anger after their breakup:
