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A Definitive Guide To Going No Contact With A Fearful-Avoidant Ex
A guide on going no contact with a fearful-avoidant ex when you want to reconcile with minimal headaches and maximum efficiency.
If you’ve been in a relationship where your ex’s openness to intimacy and need for space persistently wigwagged like a pendulum, there’s a good chance they’re fearful-avoidant. And if you’re like most people, you’re probably worried that you’ll lose them forever by going no contact.
Well, fear not. Nine times out of ten, going no contact with a fearful-avoidant ex dramatically raises their attraction for you. In fact, the longer you are in no contact, the more likely they’ll think about you in general. And then that can progress to them missing you and eventually reaching out, from which point mending things becomes much more manageable.
But I’m getting ahead of myself. Let’s start from the beginning.
Who Is A Fearful-Avoidant
The theory goes that everyone possesses one of four attachment styles, predominantly influenced by their childhood and upbringing:
- Anxious attachment, characterized by an excessive need for closeness and validation.
