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Care About Many Things (Not Just Your Ex)
Don’t care solely about your ex. Care about various things so that when one fails or is taken away, you can safely fall back on the others.
As part of The Breakthrough Letter, every week I send out a short email with one idea, one suggestion, and one resource to help you break through your breakup and create a new possibility for love, either with your ex or someone new.
Here’s this week’s edition, sent on January 22, 2024.
Today’s Idea:
Never make your ex the main source of your happiness and meaning. Diversify your sources of happiness and meaning instead.
Because if you mainly derive happiness and meaning from one thing, once that one thing fails or is taken away, you will end up in an existential crisis and feel like your life is meaningless.
However, if you can derive happiness and meaning from multiple sources, losing some of them won’t spiritually slaughter you. Because after losing some of the sources, you will always be able to fall back on the other ones.
Today’s Suggestion:
Apart from your ex, make a list of every other life-related area that brings you some form of…
