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Going No Contact With A Fearful-Avoidant
Going no contact with a fearful-avoidant is tricky. But this guide will simplify everything so you can mend your relationship faster.
If you’ve been in a relationship where your ex’s openness to intimacy and need for space wigwagged like a pendulum, there’s a good chance they’re a fearful-avoidant. And in this guide, I’ll walk you through going no contact with a fearful avoidant in order to maximize your chances of getting them back.
Who And What Is A Fearful Avoidant
Everyone possesses one of four attachment styles, predominantly influenced by their childhood and upbringing: anxious (excessive need for closeness), avoidant (excessive need for space), secure (no excessive needs), and fearful-avoidant (excessive and shifting need for closeness and space).
For an in-depth guide on these attachment styles, consult my guide to attachment theory. For this one, however, I’ll mainly focus on fearful avoidant attachment.
Individuals with this attachment style have usually experienced childhood trauma where love has not been expressed to them in a healthy manner. This childhood experience with love makes them very insecure. They find it difficult to commit to…
