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How To Build Better Boundaries
One idea, one suggestion, and one resource.
As part of The Breakthrough Letter, every week I send out a short email with one idea, one suggestion, and one resource to help you break through your breakup and create a new possibility for love, either with your ex or someone new.
Here’s this week’s edition, sent on January 15, 2024.
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Today’s Idea:
Don’t shy away from asserting your boundaries when you’re not being treated the way you want to be treated.
Friend only calls when they need something from you? Stop answering their calls. Ex keeps disrespecting you on your date? Politely tell them to cut it out or else you’re going home — and then actually go home if they’re still being an ass. A new romantic interest rejects you after you ask them out? Have the self-respect to move on to someone new — someone who will value you.
If you set a boundary with a person and they leave, that’s fine. It means the boundary worked. The point of boundaries isn’t to “fix” your relationships but to shield your mental and emotional health from dysfunctional relationships.
