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How To Stop Caring About What Your Ex Thinks

Discover a short, a long, and a surprising answer to the age-old dilemma — how the hell to stop caring about what your ex thinks.

Max Jancar
4 min readJul 14, 2024

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There’s this weird fantasy many people going through a breakup share. For some reason, they think not giving a flying fuck about what their ex thinks is actually possible.

They wish they could be impervious to their ex’s opinions, like Superman deflecting bullets. But instead of bullets, they’re out here trying to deflect the fucks they wish they didn’t give.

These people imagine a perfect mental state where their insecurities vanish and they conquer their minds. But then reality sets in, and they realize it’s not so easy.

To tackle this issue, I’ll break down the short answer, the long answer, and a surprising one.

The Short Answer: Our Shared Humanity

The short answer to why you care about what your ex thinks is simple: it’s because you’re not a psychopath.

Caring about your ex’s opinions means you’re also empathetic, compassionate, and able to form deep and meaningful connections. And that’s a natural, healthy aspect of being human.

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Max Jancar

Author, blogger, and entrepreneur. I write self-help advice for people going through heartbreak. Get my free cheat sheets: https://maxjancar.com/cheat-sheets