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Know When To Stop
If you’re not seeing any progress in re-attracting your ex in 1–3 months after the breakup, stop trying to get them back.
This article is an excerpt from my book, From The Inside Out: A Counterintuitive Approach To Re-Attracting An Ex.
When my first long-term girlfriend dumped me, I spent about nine months trying to get her back. Filled with toxic teenage tendencies and a desperation that short-circuited my moral compass, I used every slimy trick in the book.
I told her the breakup was a great idea, even though I cried myself to sleep the same night. That, and I kept having sleep issues for months after the incident.
I guess I hoped that reverse psychology would somehow entice her to give me another shot. But no, she instantly agreed with me instead. And she meant it. That one hurt like hell.
I also tried piquing my ex’s interest by sending her a barrage of texts about our relationship highlights. At one point, I even sent a sappy handwritten letter where I profusely apologized for my mistakes and begged for forgiveness.
The problem was that I completely overlooked how needy I was and how obvious it was that I was just trying to manipulate her by getting her to feel guilty.
