Look At What Your Ex Does (Not What They Say Or Mean)
Stop paying attention to what your ex says and means. Instead, focus on what they do to accurately gauge their attraction.
There’s a growing trend of guides helping people decipher the meaning behind their ex’s words so they can more easily gauge their overall attraction. You’ve probably come across a few already.
These guides go on to explain that when your ex tells you they hate you, it means they only hate the situation they’re in and, in fact, still love you. Or that when your ex says you deserve someone better, they’re actually trying to absolve themselves from any responsibility and guilt about the breakup. Or even that when they tell you it’s too late to get back together, they’re actually playing hard to get.
I get the appeal of this advice.
But the problem is that since you’re emotional during re-attraction, likely can’t think straight, and your ex’s words typically contain multiple meanings, taking them at face value almost always leads to an incorrect assessment of how they feel about you.
Your ex telling you how they hate you could simply mean that they hate you and want you to leave them alone. Your ex saying you deserve someone better may be their way of…
