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Mixed Signals Are Actually A Rejection
Mixed signals are a rejection. Therefore, it would be wise to treat them as such. Read this letter and see what I mean.
As part of The Breakthrough Letter, every week I send out a short email with one idea, one suggestion, and one resource to help you break through your breakup and create a new possibility for love, either with your ex or someone new.
Here’s this week’s edition.
Today’s Idea:
One day, the person you’re attracted to (be that your ex or someone new) is flirty and affectionate, but the next day, they’re distant and aloof. Perhaps they are even unkind or bitchy.
This is an example of mixed signals: abrupt, unexpected, and often drastic shifts between receptive and unreceptive states, between warm and cold behavior — and dealing with them is a pain in the ass.
But how do most people deal with mixed signals? Usually, they try to force or coerce the other person to be warmer and more receptive. Turns out, this is the wrong way to go about it. Because the approach completely ignores a simple yet important truth: mixed signals are a rejection.
