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Positive Self-Talk Is Just As Bad As The Negative
All the bad things you tell yourself about yourself are just as untrue and dumb as the great things you tell yourself about yourself.
As part of The Breakthrough Letter, every week I send out a short email with one idea, one suggestion, and one resource to help you break through your breakup and create a new possibility for love, either with your ex or someone new.
Here’s this week’s edition, sent on February 19, 2024.
Today’s Idea:
Most breakup advice out there obsesses over the idea of overcoming negative self-talk. But you never hear how irrationally positive self-talk is just as harmful and stupid as the irrationally negative.
Well, it is. Telling yourself you’re a failure because you got dumped is just as bad as telling yourself how you didn’t make any mistakes in your relationship and that your breakup is solely your ex’s fault.
In both cases, you’re deluding yourself about your situation. The reality, however, is that all the nasty and horrible things you say to yourself about yourself are untrue. And all the amazing and badass things you say to yourself about yourself are probably untrue as well.
