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Sometimes No Move Is The Best Move
Sometimes doing nothing is more powerful than absolutely anything you could possibly say or do to get an ex back.
This is a pretty underrated concept. Yet whenever I offer it up as advice to people, it blows their minds. Sometimes the best move with an ex is to do nothing. Sometimes doing nothing is more powerful than absolutely anything you could possibly say or do in a situation.
Yet, you don’t see many people following this advice. Instead, you see them succumb to what I call the illusion of action.
The illusion of action is essentially a panic and neediness-induced misconception that simply taking any form of action — regardless of its effectiveness or appropriateness — will automatically raise an ex’s attraction level or even lead to reconciliation.
This misconception gets most people into a mindset of reactivity, which causes them to behave less attractively. Think: incessant calls and texts, grand romantic gestures, or begging and pleading with their ex for another shot. All unproductive, sabotaging behaviors that nine times out of ten, only push an ex further away (see: top ex-back mistakes).
To break free from this illusion of action, here’s a novel mentality to adopt.
