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The Ultimate Guide To Setting Boundaries With An Ex
Getting your ex back and keeping them gets so much easier if you just learn how to set and keep proper and healthy personal boundaries.
Boundaries are guidelines that dictate what behaviors you’ll tolerate and which you won’t. For example, “I will tolerate my ex calling me out when I’m acting needy or immature, but I will not tolerate them not showing up for our date.”
Boundaries are also interwoven with responsibility. The stronger your boundaries, the more responsibility you take for your behaviors and emotions, and the less responsibility you take for the behaviors and emotions of others. In fact, the whole point of boundaries is to use them to eventually arrive at a place where you take full responsibility for your behaviors and emotions.
Boundaries often receive a bad rep because people feel establishing them is selfish and thus unattractive, but that’s bullshit. Healthy boundaries radically increase your self-esteem, self-worth, and lower neediness. In fact, they are a recurring side effect of having higher self-esteem, self-worth, and lower neediness in general.
Therefore, the sturdier your boundaries, the easier it will be to gain your ex’s respect, generate attraction, and…
