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Why Your Ex Moved On Quickly And How To Respond
If your ex moved on quickly after your breakup, perhaps even started dating someone else shortly after, understand that there’s a good chance they’ve been plotting and thinking about breaking up with you for weeks or months before they actually pulled the plug.
And it’s throughout this “mulling period” that they got over you. After all, they had plenty of time during it to mourn your relationship and relinquish any intense emotional attachment for you.
To wrench the knife even deeper, your ex likely hinted that they’re disengaging from you or that you’re doing something that keeps turning them off. Perhaps they even outright told you these things and tried to help you turn your relationship around.
After five years of helping people going through breakups, I’ve seen this pattern unfold time and time again.
Your ex never moves on quickly. It only feels as though they do because they kicked off the process while you were still together and while you still had intense feelings for them — feelings so intoxicating they blinded you from your ex’s hints, aid, and, gradual decline in attraction. That is, until it was already too late.
Read on and learn how to avoid repeating the same mistake in your next relationship — be it with your ex or someone else.
